How to Relax….When You Just Want to SCREAM!
These days stress is a constant companion, and most of us, through lots of practice, have become experts at elevating our stress levels. Many of us actually feel more comfortable with constant multitasking and overwhem, because it’s just what our brains have become accustomed to.
The ability to relax is an acquired skill too. Luckily, you can teach yourself to handle stress in a manner that reduces the negative effects. However, the more stressed you feel, the more challenging it can be to relax.
Keep reading to discover how you can relax your body and mind when your stress levels are out of control:
1. Take a moment to stretch. Stand up for a few minutes and stretch your body. Release the tension and stress in your muscles. Shake your arms and legs individually and get back to work. Try this. It works!
2. Exercise. If you have more time available, 30 minutes of exercise can work wonders. Avoid limiting yourself to the standard walk or jog. Consider whether you’d prefer to exercise alone or with others (on zoom 😊) and make it happen.
3. Listen to music. Music can be very soothing. The theme from Rocky might make you feel great, but might not be the best choice if you’re feeling agitated. Choose music that you find relaxing.
4. Meditate. Meditation is simple, but challenging. You can learn to focus your thoughts and relieve your tension. Keep your thoughts focused on your breath and return to these thoughts whenever you get distracted. What could be simpler?
5. Reach out to others. Some of us find relaxation in being alone, while others feel better with others. Reach out to your friends and family. You can discuss your feelings and the challenges you’re facing. You could also choose to use the people in your life as a distraction. Go out to socially distant dinner or do a Netflix watch party. Have a little fun.
6. Laugh. Maybe laughter is the best medicine. Pull up your favorite Youtube or spend the evening watching comedy on Netflix. Call your funniest friend for a chat. Read a book of jokes. Find something or someone that will make you laugh.
7. Feel gratitude. It’s easy to forget about all the wonderful things in your life during challenging times. Make a list of all the blessings in your life. Focus on feeling gratitude. By reminding yourself of all the good things, the bad things won’t seem nearly as bad.
8. Take a nap. One of the best ways to reset your nervous system is sleeping. Find a quiet place and lie down for an hour. A nap can be the best stress-buster. (However if you struggle with insomnia try to avoid taking naps as it can make it harder to sleep at night)
9. Think happy thoughts. Remember a happy, past event. A time that makes you feel joy, appreciation, or calm. Relive it in your mind. Creative visualization can be an excellent way to take a break from your stress. Be creative and enjoy yourself.
10. Drop the caffeine from your diet. Caffeine and stress don’t combine well. Give your nervous system a reprieve and avoid caffeinated beverages. Do you really need to be any more stimulated?
11. Close your eyes and listen to the sounds around you. You could also cover your ears and focus on what you see. You’ll just look sillier. Block off one of your senses and focus on your environment. This is an excellent way to be more present. Giving your attention to your surroundings will stop your mind from creating more stress.
Stress is a part of daily life. Learning to manage it makes life more enjoyable.
The best time to address stress is the moment it begins. There’s a momentum to stress. Once your stress reaches a high level, it’s far more challenging to reduce. Most stress-reduction techniques provide a small to moderate amount of relief. Use them sooner, rather than later, and prevent a meltdown before it happens.
If you would like to get some guidance around stress managment, I want to invite you to check out my program called Be the Boss of Your Worry: A 30-Day Journey to Reclaim Peace of Mind. You can try out a sample meditation HERE.
About Jennifer Bronsnick, MSW, LCSW
Jennifer Bronsnick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Anxiety Treatment Specialist. She supports women and teen girls who struggle with anxiety, self-doubt & perfectionism tap into their innate resilience, get to the root of their fears and implement custom healing strategies so that they can experience peace of mind, more self-confidence and be liberated from the suffering that living with anxiety causes. Jennifer uses a variety of treatment modalities including Human Design, Mindfulness-Based Therapy, Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis + Health Coaching, Energy Psychology tools, Heartmath and more! She believe that everyone's experience of anxiety is unique and the solution should be customized to the client’s needs and desires.